Could have, Would have, Should have

Have you ever noticed how these three little words, could, would and should, tend to dominate our language?

They all have many important and rather innocuous uses of course, … but they can also be reflective of a life not lived to its full potential.

I’m referring, in particular, to the use of these words when paired with the word ‘have’, as in “could have …”, “would have …” and “should have …”.

“Should have. Would have. Could have. Didn’t.”

― Gabrielle Zevin

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Your Life Your Choice

You just have to read the papers or listen to the news and you’ll probably agree that it’s one crazy world that we live in!

But what if you made a conscious decision not to tune into the media? How would the world seem to you then?

The point here is that our perceptions of the world around us are heavily influenced and shaped by groups of other people and the norms and standards that these groups choose to promote and apply.

“The world is a complex place, and the influence of the media in its representation and its power of communication and interpretation is a remarkable amplifier of emotions, and of illusions.”

– Tariq Ramadan

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Build Our Country

I write this week’s post from the land of the long white cloud, where Jenni and I are enjoying a brief holiday with family.

New Zealand’s weather is notoriously changeable, and after a few days in which we experienced all four seasons in a day, the weather has now given way to solid overcast skies and light rain providing the perfect opportunity to take a break from sightseeing, hole up inside and put ‘fingers to keyboard’.

The other night I lay in bed in the early hours of the morning in a state of what can best be described as ‘semi-consciousness’ as my mind and body tried to come to terms with the recent radical shift in time zones.

Perhaps brought on by my sense of relative calm and unity of purpose of people in this far flung corner of the planet, I started to reflect on the dramatic political, social and economic upheavals evident in most of the rest of the world at this time.

“A nation’s culture resides in the hearts and in the soul of its people.”

– Mahatma Gandhi

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200 and Counting!

It would seem that this is a time for milestones!

Today I’m truly proud to announce the publishing of the 200th article on this Blog. To recognise this milestone I have selected and summarised the 20 most popular (as judged by the number of your comments).

You can read (or re-read) any post that takes your interest simply by clicking on the title. When done, click on ‘Home’ in the menu bar on the left to return to the most current post.

“What can be a more noble and important pursuit than inspiring other people to live their very best lives?”

– New Insights life coach training

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A Celebration of Life

This week my darling wife, Jenni, has gifted me a rare break from writing our regular Life Coaching Insights Blog post.

Truth is, she’s probably feeling sorry for me given my advanced years (she’s given the game away below!)

Anyway, I’m sure you’ll find reading what she has to say a breath of fresh air.

Do enjoy it!

“You have to stay in shape. My grandmother started walking five miles a day when she was sixty. She’s ninety-seven today and we don’t know where the hell she is.”


– Ellen DeGeneres

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Increase Your Effectiveness

In today’s hurly burly world where there never seems to be enough time for everything that needs to be done, what would you give to increase your effectiveness, or perhaps even double it?

We often hear how efficient people are but we don’t often talk about personal effectiveness.

What’s the difference?

Well, simply put, efficiency is about doing everything well, whereas effectiveness is doing well that which is really important.

Efficient people are more likely to feel stressed out precisely because there just isn’t enough time to do everything as well as they would like. Effective people make choices. They focus on what really needs doing and then on getting that done. They are less likely to ‘sweat the small stuff’!

Here are fifteen tips for raising your effectiveness. They were designed for people like coaches who run their own small businesses – but they can work for anyone.

“True effectiveness is a function of two things: what is produced (the golden eggs) and the producing asset (the goose).”

– Stephen Covey

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