Six Key Questions to Ask Yourself

One of the critical skills of a life coach is knowing the right questions to ask and when to ask them.

A common request I get from our trainee life coaches is to share what I believe are the most powerful questions to ask of clients.

The New Insights Life Coach Training Programme incorporates a lot of material on this subject and the fact is that there is no set group of questions that work well for every client. Also, questions that may be appropriate during the more advanced stages of the coaching programme can be completely inappropriate during the early rapport building stage – and vice versa.

Nevertheless I do have a few favourite questions that I believe go to the heart of the principles we espouse in life coaching.

I’ve chosen six here that are intended to make you think deeply about who you are, what drives you and how you relate to the world around you and to your authentic inner being.

“The key to wisdom is knowing all the right questions.”

– John A. Simone Sr.

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The Beauty of Balance

We have been conditioned into seeing the positives and negatives of life as incompatible, as good and bad or even good and evil.

In this post we explore how positive and negative are fundamental to everything that exists, complementary aspects of a perfectly balanced life.

“When we focus and bring our minds to perfect symmetry, the inner world is birthed – an inner attention, an inner presence. Magical things occur: Genius is awakened, art is created, and inspirational writing pours forth.”

– Dr John Demartini (From ‘The Breakthrough Experience’)

 

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True Freedom

When we launched New Insights Africa in 2007 and rebranded New Insights UK when the two businesses were brought together in 2012, we introduced three words which represent the aspiration we have for people who are exposed to our training and our coaching system:

FREEDOM – CONFIDENCE – GROWTH

Personal growth and self-fulfilment is, deep down, perhaps the highest need that we strive to meet as humans.

But we cannot hope to achieve this unless we are fully self aware, confident individuals.

And to become so we need to be free of all the limiting beliefs and negative emotions of fear, anger and resentment that plague us.

I’m sure you’ll agree that this notion of freedom is a little different from that which most people might associate with.

“True freedom is the capacity for acting according to one’s true character, to be altogether one’s self, to be self-determined and not subject to outside coercion.”

– Corliss Lamont

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Break the Cycle

As the year slowly draws to a close, I appreciate that reading personal development style blogs starts to slip down the priority listing for many people.

And yet, as we prepare for a temporary interruption in our day-to-day routines, this is without doubt the very best time to sow the seeds for positive, meaningful change in our lives.

For many, the end of the year brings with it an almost obsessive focus on trying to complete unfinished tasks and a sudden rush to put right the effects of procrastination earlier in the year.

It’s also a time when many, particularly those in the southern hemisphere where the summer holidays beckon, start their preparations for taking some time out from work and their normal obligations.

For those who desire more than just temporary relief from the ‘rat race’ this time of enforced change is the perfect time to plan to break the cycle!

“All things are difficult before they are easy.”

– Thomas Fuller

 

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The Six Human Needs

Abraham Maslow developed what is now commonly known as ‘Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs’.

He postulated that human needs are arranged in a hierarchy starting with our most basic physiological needs for food, water and air, to safety, to love, to esteem and finally to our highest need, namely self actualisation.

The hierarchical arrangement suggests that only once the most basic need is met can we aspire to the next level of need, and only once that need is met can we aspire to the next highest need, and so on and so on.

 

“To deal with individual human needs at the everyday level can be noble sometimes.”

– Jimmy Carter

 

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