Time to Reflect

Wow! It’s almost time to wave goodbye to yet another year. As I look forward to a few weeks break from writing, I offer you a final post for the year – one that could honestly change your life. 🙂

Depending on your hemisphere, you may be preparing for the summer holidays and some outdoor fun and adventure … or looking forward to cosying up to your family and friends around a log fire and a hearty roast dinner or two!

Either way, I hope you qualify for some much deserved time off work and that you’ll be able to relax and find time to reflect.

You may be surprised to know just how vital such reflection time is.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

– Viktor E. Frankl

Time to reflect

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Fair Exchange

“Coaches HATE selling” screamed the headline of an advert for an online course that I saw on Facebook recently.

It was clearly aimed at life coaches who, well, find the idea of selling their services difficult, to say the least. And I would guess that that applies to most who take up this career – at least in the early stages.

“The universe is based on fair exchange. What you give you will get.”

– Guruji Sri Sri Poonamji

Fair exchange

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From Existing to Living

Politically and socioeconomically speaking, the world is pretty unstable right now. I doubt many readers would disagree with this.

Although New Insights is proud to have trainee coaches and certified coaches all over the world, our main markets are the UK and South Africa.

And right now both countries, in particular, are currently experiencing a level of political and socioeconomic uncertainty not felt for a long time.

As we citizens struggle to make sense of the upheaval, it is tempting to point a finger of blame at our leaders, whinge and complain amongst ourselves and then sit back and hope that the whole mess sorts itself out soon.

But that would amount to simply existing … when we really should be living!

“The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”

– Louis E. Boone

From existing to living

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Stuck In a Rut?

Life coaching is particularly effective for those people who, though mentally well and fully functional, are simply ‘stuck in a rut’!

Let’s face it, we all have that stuck feeling at some stage of other in our lives. But that’s not to say that it isn’t hugely frustrating and debilitating while it lasts.

So what’s the cause of it and what’s the best strategy for getting out of a rut?

“When we are stuck in a rut we are being invited to grow and expand.”

― Dana Arcur

stuck in a rut

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Let Go of the Control Freak

It’s mid January … and at about this time you may be feeling that the warm glow of the holiday season is rapidly wearing off and you’re beginning to settle back into that dreaded ‘business as usual’ routine – some call it a rut!

During breaks, life typically takes on more of a ‘freeform’ nature than at other times. You get the chance to relax, drop your guard and reflect on who you are, where you’re at, where you want to be and and what you really want from life.

Then, just as you’re beginning to enjoy the feeling, it’s time to stop dreaming and get back to work. For many, sadly, that means getting back on the ‘treadmill’ of daily life  and hanging in there until the next break emerges – mercifully – on the horizon!

“If you want real control, drop the illusion of control. Let life live you. It does anyway.”

– Byron Katie

 

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The Comparison Trap

We are all totally unique individuals.

Even though more than seven billion of us coexist on the planet, no two people are identical. And even if it were possible to create two genetically identical human beings, they would develop unique characters in response to the unique environment, upbringing and events that they would be exposed to throughout their lives.

You might think that because of this, we humans would relish our unique identities and life tracks and be not only tolerant but appreciative and graciously admiring of the paths and achievements of others.

And yet, we humans are prone to a condition that clouds our thinking, detracts from our vitality and saps our ability to enjoy the uniqueness of our own lives.

That condition is envy or jealousy.

“Comparing yourself to others is an act of violence against your authentic self.”

– Iyanla Vanzandt

The comparison trap

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