Keeping motivated

Some people tend to struggle with keeping motivated more than others. Nonetheless, it is an issue that all of us have to confront at some point in our lives.

I remember being asked once what ‘filters’ New Insights applies to screen people who enrol to train as life coaches. The lady who asked me the question seemed genuinely surprised by my answer: “None”.

“But what about the bad eggs – those people who really aren’t cut out to do such important work,” she continued.

I explained to her that the comprehensive and rigorous nature of our home study training programme renders it ‘self selecting’.

You see, apart from being thoroughly ethical and passionate about working with people to empower them, trainee life coaches need to learn a lot about themselves and the various techniques of human motivation that they will ultimately apply in their coaching.

It’s impossible to graduate to a life of motivating others if you do not make the necessary leap in self-awareness and self motivation required to complete the programme.

And quite a few don’t!

 

“When you look at people who are successful, you will find that they aren’t the people who are motivated, but have consistency in their motivation.”

– Arsene Wenger

Keep motivated

Keep motivated (continued)

 

So are there any strategies for keeping motivated?

Motivation comes from within

In my opinion the most important recognition is that genuine motivation, contrary to what many believe, comes from within. Staying motivated is a choice for which each individual is personally responsible.

Even life coaches and motivational speakers who specialise in human motivation will readily acknowledge that you can take a horse to water but you cannot make it drink.

In other words, you can share powerful motivational tips, tools and techniques in a caring, inspiring and uplifting way but the decision to adopt or embrace what you share, lies solely with your clients or audience.

Similarly, New Insights training contains a wealth of practical information and support that can facilitate great strides in self-awareness and self-motivation but no matter how good the training is, it can never be anything more than a catalyst for change. It requires an enthusiastic and fully responsible trainee for it to produce the results intended.

How many people do you know that claim to be demotivated because their job is boring or their boss is a control freak or their partner does not stimulate them or their friends do not respect them enough for what they do, or …? The list of scapegoats is endless.

The answer to demotivation in each and every case is to STOP blaming someone or something else and START taking action to bring about change.

This brings me to my second point, taking action.

Just do it!

Motivation, as I have pointed out, is a state of mind – and the mind is a complex and curious thing.

When the mind lacks stimulation as in cases where you feel demotivated, it will often be inclined to perpetuate the situation by justifying why taking action is counterproductive.

“If I resign my job, I’ll have no money and be worthless.” “If I stand up to my boss, he might fire me.” “If I discuss my needs with my partner he/she might get angry with me.” “If I back off from pleasing my friends, I’ll end up lonely.”

Thus a vicious cycle of demotivation, lack of action and increased demotivation ensues.

The solution here is to bring yourself to realise what the long-term consequences of not taking action are, gather up the courage and take the action needed!

There’s a lot more to the saying “Just do it!” than meets the eye!

Keep momentum

The third point I would like to share is how important it is to keep momentum.

Momentum (or keeping moving) breeds motivation and vibrancy, whereas inertia (or staying in one place) breeds demotivation and listlessness.

Once action is taken to bring about change, it’s essential to keep going. As any scholar of physics will tell you, it takes far less effort to keep a moving body moving than it does to force a body that is at rest into motion!

So, action to bring about change needs to be followed up with continuous action to keep the motivation necessary to get the job done.

In my example of trainee life coaches, studying and practising a little every week, week in and week out, is usually far more effective than busting a gut one week and then sitting back and doing nothing for six weeks in the hope that you’ll pick up where you left off again later.

Help others

My final point is to make a habit out of helping others to become motivated.

At first thought, this suggestion may appear to be a little out of place with the other three but actually it’s not.

You see, nurturing self-motivation is all about nurturing self-awareness and self-belief. If you feel good about yourself and your role in the world you will feel motivated.

And, believe it or not, there is no better way to get to know, understand and feel good about yourself than by helping others by sharing what you know about becoming and staying motivated and inspired.

Why do you think I write this Blog 🙂

So, please …

Keep motivated, keep reading and start sharing 🙂

 

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14 Comments

  1. Thepha A Fakudze
    Mar 2, 2017

    Thanks Bill, this article made me realize I could be the worse enemy of my success if I let my levels of motivation go unchecked.

  2. Mark
    Mar 1, 2017

    Hi Bill thanks, very true about what you say regarding the decision coming from the trainee at the end of the day! Its sometimes so frustrating seeing someone asking for help and needing assistance but then actually not doing the work for themselves at the end, and often wondering or “blame shifting” the fact that nothing works!! Any advice on how to help further, is there a point where you just let go or do you wait patiently?

    • Bill
      Mar 3, 2017

      Hi Mark,

      This is certainly a problem in today’s world where we are used to seeking out ‘quick fix solutions’ that require little work or effort on our part. The best you can do – if you’re looking to help someone else – is to bring into their conscious awareness what they are doing and open their eyes to the alternative. Here’s a post you might like: http://www.life-coaching-insights.com/a-shocking-realisation/

  3. Ndivhuwo
    Mar 1, 2017

    Hi Bill

    Thank you for the wonderful article. Very inspiring.

    • Bill
      Mar 3, 2017

      Thank you!

  4. Tichaona Fata
    Mar 1, 2017

    This is an inspirational reading in itself, it compels one to be self driven and eager to get to another stage in life rather than complaining all the time. I like it,
    Thanks Bill for sharing

    • Bill
      Mar 3, 2017

      Thanks for your comment Tichaona!

  5. Karen
    Mar 1, 2017

    Thank you for your insights on this vital character trait, Bill. We’re not born with it, so, those of us who are self-motivated (and self-discipline goes hand in hand with it), have either had an excellent role model as we grew up (usually a parent or teacher), or we have realized from an early age, that by responding positively to that inner stimulus to work hard and follow through, we experience the pride and joy that comes with accomplishment.

    Sadly, many people remain stuck during their lives, despite the discomfort and pain that laziness and apathy bring. Some are too afraid or arrogant to ask for help and others would rather look for a short cut than work hard. When a catalyst enables them to feel the benefits, the ” wheels” are suddenly set in motion…

    The most powerful word in your blog, appears in the last line of your quotation. It is the word, “consistency.” While perseverance, tenacity and resilience are said to be the keys to success (more so than intelligence or talent), I think that the role that consistency plays in accomplishment, is often underestimated.

    • Bill
      Mar 1, 2017

      As always, some very insightful and useful reflections. Thanks Karen!

  6. Annie
    Mar 1, 2017

    Hi Bill
    Thank you for the blog, just what I needed to hear. Or rather read, he he.

    • Bill
      Mar 1, 2017

      I’m glad it could help 🙂

  7. Arie Roos
    Mar 1, 2017

    Hi Bill

    Thank you for the excellent article.

    I would like to add something if I may. The word “motivation” is derived from “motive.” A “motive” is a reason for doing something. So it can be said that the reasons that drove you to decide on a course of action is a key in your motivation. I have found that staying aware of those reasons has helped greatly in keeping me motivated.

    • Bill
      Mar 1, 2017

      Thanks for this useful comment Arie!

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