Let Go of the Control Freak

It’s mid January … and at about this time you may be feeling that the warm glow of the holiday season is rapidly wearing off and you’re beginning to settle back into that dreaded ‘business as usual’ routine – some call it a rut!

During breaks, life typically takes on more of a ‘freeform’ nature than at other times. You get the chance to relax, drop your guard and reflect on who you are, where you’re at, where you want to be and and what you really want from life.

Then, just as you’re beginning to enjoy the feeling, it’s time to stop dreaming and get back to work. For many, sadly, that means getting back on the ‘treadmill’ of daily life  and hanging in there until the next break emerges – mercifully – on the horizon!

“If you want real control, drop the illusion of control. Let life live you. It does anyway.”

– Byron Katie


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Five Steps to a Great Life

Thank you for being a loyal reader of Life Coaching Insights.

The year is winding down and this will be the final post for 2014. Even my keyboard deserves a break!

I thought I would leave you to enjoy the festive season with something to contemplate as you consider the prospects for a brand new year ahead.

In the life coaching business one of the questions I get asked regularly is: “So what does it take to lead a great life?”

Here follows five bits of the best advice I know…

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Relationships and Responsibility

The original founder of New Insights, Neil Asher, and his lovely wife Natasha, are celebrating their twelfth wedding anniversary as I write this post.

As Neil points out on his Facebook page, that’s some achievement nowadays … although, as I need to remind him, he’s got a long way to go to catch up with Jenni and me!

The question is: “What is it that makes for a relationship that can truly stand the test of time?”

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”

― Donald Miller

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Choose Your Moments

We all know, deep in our hearts, that we are responsible…

We are responsible for our lives. The good, the bad and even the ugly bits that go to make up the totality of our experiences.

“Happiness comes from within!”

“Money can’t buy happiness!”

And on the clichés go…

This week’s article is our first guest article on the Life Coaching Insights Blog. And the honour goes to my wife, Jenni – also part life coach, part exercise and dance teacher, part mother and part housewife!
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The Winds of Change

In 1960 Harold Macmillan, then British Prime Minister, made a speech to the Parliament of South Africa in which he referred to the “wind of change blowing through this continent.” Some claim that this now historic speech was a contributing factor to the formation of the Republic of South Africa in 1961.

Today I believe that winds of change are blowing more strongly than ever before … but not just political winds … and not just across the continent of Africa.

I’m starting to judge success by the time I have for myself, the time I spend with family and friends. My priorities aren’t amending; they’re shifting.

– Brendan Fraser

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