Know Your Values, Increase Your Happiness

I watched a reality TV show last night featuring couples who are experiencing marital issues. At one point I found myself nodding my head and smiling wryly.

One of the partners in a couple featured on the programme was engaged in a one on one discussion with a relationship coach.

The coach asked her to sum up the nub of the relationship problem, to which she answered: “We just seem to have different values.” The coach probed for more information: “What exactly are your top values?”

At this point, the woman started to stutter and stammer before, in a questioning manner, finally spitting out a few generic values, while eyeing the coach for approval.

“It’s not hard to make decisions once you know what your values are.”

– Roy E. Disney

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Just the One

We live in what seems to be an immensely challenged and challenging world.

The vast and growing number of people living on earth today pose an unprecedented challenge to the ability of our planet and its environment to sustain life as we have always known it.

At the same time, despite quantum advances in technology life, for most of us, is more challenging than ever before.

We are living in a time when it is easy to contemplate these issues and conclude that we are, individually, of little or no significance or relevance in the greater scheme of things.

A simple glance skywards on a clear night might be enough to reinforce the perception that each of is no more important than a tiny ant in a huge anthill or a grain of sand in the desert.

“I am just one human being.”

– Dalai Lama

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Enjoy what you do

I’m sure you’ve read that saying that goes something like: “If you enjoy what you do, you’ll never have to work a day in your life.”

A poll released by Gallup in 2013 showed that a meagre 13% of people worldwide actually get enjoyment out of going to work.

Perhaps even more disturbing is the fact that some 27% of the people who indicated that they did not enjoy going to work, reported being ‘actively disengaged’ from their work.

To be blunt, this basically means that they will go as far as to take steps to try to persuade co-workers why they should feel the same way.

So what’s going on here?

“Do what you love and the money will follow.”

– Marsha Sinetar

 

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Promoting Happiness

The problem with the term ‘life coaching’ is that it’s just not terribly descriptive. The net effect of that is that members of the public tend to hold very different preconceptions of what life coaching is really all about.

In particular, life coaching often gets confused with counselling or mentoring, two disciplines which are, in fact very different.

At New Insights we’ve developed a fairly simple and succinct definition that we use – and ask our trained coaches to use – to promote consistency. But sometimes even that’s not simple enough.

When the situation calls for ‘brass tack’ brevity I like to explain life coaching as ‘promoting happiness’ because when you boil down everything that life coaches do, that is the end result that they seek for their clients.

So what is happiness and why does a consistent state of happiness remain so elusive for so many of us?

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.

– Denis Waitley

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A Boerewors Roll for the Soul

It seems like yesterday – but its actually four years ago now – that I wrote and self published my first (and, so far, only) book, “A Boerewors Roll for the Soul – Awaken to the magic of the life you love.”

I can honestly say I did it for love and the experience, more than anything else. Though I regard myself as a reasonably competent marketer, I admit to having been quite pathetic when it comes to applying any marketing expertise to my book. I guess that’s just never been my focus.

Just the other day, however, an old friend in the UK delivered something of a wake-up call.

Unbeknown to me, he found out about the book, ordered a copy, read it … and then proceeded to give me a polite ‘tongue lashing’ via email.

“No one lights a lamp and puts it in a hiding place or under a basket, but on a lamp stand, so that those who enter may see its light.”

– The Bible (International Standard Version)

 

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