Could have, Would have, Should have

Have you ever noticed how these three little words, could, would and should, tend to dominate our language?

They all have many important and rather innocuous uses of course, … but they can also be reflective of a life not lived to its full potential.

I’m referring, in particular, to the use of these words when paired with the word ‘have’, as in “could have …”, “would have …” and “should have …”.

“Should have. Would have. Could have. Didn’t.”

― Gabrielle Zevin

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Let Go of the Control Freak

It’s mid January … and at about this time you may be feeling that the warm glow of the holiday season is rapidly wearing off and you’re beginning to settle back into that dreaded ‘business as usual’ routine – some call it a rut!

During breaks, life typically takes on more of a ‘freeform’ nature than at other times. You get the chance to relax, drop your guard and reflect on who you are, where you’re at, where you want to be and and what you really want from life.

Then, just as you’re beginning to enjoy the feeling, it’s time to stop dreaming and get back to work. For many, sadly, that means getting back on the ‘treadmill’ of daily life  and hanging in there until the next break emerges – mercifully – on the horizon!

“If you want real control, drop the illusion of control. Let life live you. It does anyway.”

– Byron Katie

 

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The Meaning of Life

What a profound subject to kick off the new year with, you may be thinking!

Well, I’m never one to turn down the prospect of an expanded readership, and if the title of the Blog Post can help achieve that without totally misleading the audience, then “Why not,” I say?

If you were looking forward to a straightforward answer to the age old question: “What is the meaning of life?” I may disappoint you. I have some ideas on that topic, of course, but there are others out there more eminently qualified to do that justice!

What I want to focus on today is how events and situations affect our lives based on the meaning we attach to them. Perhaps not as profound-sounding as the title implies, but nevertheless incredibly important in determining how we feel about ourselves and about life!

“Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when YOU are the answer.”

– Joseph Campbell


 

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Promoting Happiness

The problem with the term ‘life coaching’ is that it’s just not terribly descriptive. The net effect of that is that members of the public tend to hold very different preconceptions of what life coaching is really all about.

In particular, life coaching often gets confused with counselling or mentoring, two disciplines which are, in fact very different.

At New Insights we’ve developed a fairly simple and succinct definition that we use – and ask our trained coaches to use – to promote consistency. But sometimes even that’s not simple enough.

When the situation calls for ‘brass tack’ brevity I like to explain life coaching as ‘promoting happiness’ because when you boil down everything that life coaches do, that is the end result that they seek for their clients.

So what is happiness and why does a consistent state of happiness remain so elusive for so many of us?

“Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.

– Denis Waitley

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The Gift

Life is a Gift … That’s why it is called The Present!

As we journey along the path of Life, are we treading on shimmering rose quartz or sharp stones? As we go along, are we gathering “the more” that our Egos are desperate to find and hold onto? “When I get there …”

Or, perhaps we are aware of our Heart Song. Content and at Peace, remembering that our Point of Power is to be found … in the Present moment.

Is this The Gift?

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